There are good reasons, evolution-wise that we obsess about the negative, but it’s not all-together helpful, is it?!
I’ve heard it said that we’re four (or more) times more sensitive to negative things than the positives ones (sorry, I can’t find the reference). And there’s good reason for that – in terms of our evolution the negative stuff might kill you whereas the positive stuff just makes you feel good… 🙂
On a personal note, I found myself obsessing about a mediocre feedback form last week from a training day I ran. 19 people raved and one person said ‘very good’ (as opposed to ‘excellent’). Guess which feedback form I obsessed about that night, reading over and over and over…?
Without an ability to balance the good and the bad, it’s a useful tool to record the good stuff. If we tend to remember the bad rather than the good, it makes sense to help ourselves out by boosting the good – and a way of recording it, to bring it to mind, is a great way of doing that.
Personally, I make point of telling my friends about the good stuff, so that when I’m next down, saying “It’s all rubbish”, they can counter that with “But last week…” 🙂
Other people I know use different tools and tricks.
A dear, dear friend of mine puts ticks (and the occasional cross) on the family calendar. You know the one I mean – the one that’s on the fridge door to keep every member of the family in the right place at the right night of the week…
Other people I know use a diary. And yes, before you ask, there’s an app for that! 🙂 On iPhones you can use a the Gratitude Log (I’m sure there are Android equivalents but I use a Mac). Or you can use websites/blogs to record the good stuff.
To be honest though, it doesn’t matter how you do it – just do it! What system(s) do you use?