2020 really aged me. I look in the mirror and ask myself, who is this old man? I stare at my surroundings and ask myself, "have I accomplished everything I wanted to at this age?" I count the lines on my face, the worry in my eyes, ache in my heart because of arguments I've had with my parents this passed year.
I hover over the "delete blog" button.
I'm an adult and this collection of thoughts since 2007 should be archived. There is so much vulnerability and stories available in a public space to be found by anybody. Thoughts and feelings and bad grammar that doesn't merely disappear in 24 hours or is controlled by a "close friend" list. Everything available for criticism.
I visit my "about me" page and read, "a collection of my thoughts into my adulthood." I click on a few links and get nostalgic and decide not to delete this. I'm sentimental and I think I would find joy remembering these moments while I reach old age, alone at a nursing home or hospice. But I found a way to make this blog unsearchable, but we all know the internet is forever.
It's been difficult for me. A false alarm positive during Thanksgiving resulted in a mental break down on day two of quarantine. Feeling the sense of shame, being indirectly called a menace who was trying to absolve myself of responsibility silenced me. And as strong as I may seem, I'm as fragile as any other human on this planet. A fragile, needy extrovert that built his personality on being social.
The things that bring me immense joy have not been available.
- Spontaneous hang out with friends
- Connecting people in a safe space
- Exploring new eats
- Making new friends
- Board Game nights
- Ridesharing and hearing stories
- Silly themed parties full of creativity
- Building trust with clients and breaking professional barriers
Essentially, I am incapable of being myself and as we approach a year of this; I've lost my soul. The only thing that seems to be getting me through this are small joys.
What are these small joys?
- Fixing imperfections in my home like painting walls
- Creating spotify playlists from mix CDs and remembering old music.
- Selling and buying things on OfferUp
- Watching one episode of a show like British Bake Off
- Constantly cleaning, vacuuming, mopping
- Reducing screentime on my phone
- Recording what I had for dinner in my moleskine