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I am always amazed when I meet a new, aspiring pick up artist and I’m asked the same fruitless question: “Can you tell me any good pick up lines?”
That is where the problem lies. Pick up lines don’t work. Let me repeat that so you understand this clearly:
Pick up lines don’t work.
Why? Pick up lines don’t work on women because they are socially programmed to detect them and have a built-in defense mechanism that prevents it. In fact, these defense mechanisms are actually subconscious most of the time. The term for this defense is often referred to as the “bitch shield”. An example conversation that illustrates this defense mechanism might go something like:
You: “Hi, what’s a nice girl like you doing in a place like this?”
Her: “I have a boyfriend.”
There are many web sites on the Internet loaded with all kinds of pick up lines, just waiting for some average frustrated chump to try out for his next rejection. When the guy fails to attract the female with his pick up lines, he usually chalks it up to some physical flaw he has that ensures he will never be attractive to women. He may continue this process until he finds a woman whose self-esteem is so low that she is attracted to anyone who pays her even the tiniest amount of attention.
This is an unfortunate pattern that happens every day to countless men. The truth is that approaching and attracting girls has very little to do with physical appearance. Most men will go their entire lives not knowing this, which is a sad but realistic fact. Attracting girls is about projecting the proper character and knowing how to approach them without being subjected to their first line defenses.
To understand this more clearly, you must understand the fundamental instincts when dealing with females: Survival and Reproduction. You see, when it comes to mating, women have more to lose than men do. First of all, women are the one's who become pregnant. Carrying a child for 9 months is no simple matter (not to mention the pains associated with birthing). During the time the woman is pregnant, she is physically programmed to look out for the survival of her baby. Her hormones change. Her desire for reproduction drops to a very low level (since she already has a seed planted), and her body undergoes physical changes. Most men would agree that a pregnant woman is not as sexually desirable as a woman who has not mated yet (although they will never admit this to the woman they have impregnated).
The second factor to consider is that raising a child requires a great deal of resources and time. Looking at this from an evolutionary perspective, men have typically been the resource providers in relationships. On the flip side, the woman historically spends her time nesting. This social contract has existed since man first came down from the trees and started walking upright. Of course, women are fully capable of providing for children and do so very often, but it is not an instinctual trait that they carry.
A man, on the other hand, can go from woman to woman spreading his seed without the instinctual fear of hurting their survival. It is true that men in our current society often fear conceiving a child with a woman, but it is a socially programmed trait. It is not necessarily a physical instinct that exists within them. To better understand this, you must learn the (general) equation:
- Women spend much of their lives favoring Survival over Reproduction (80% / 20%)
- Conversly, men spend much of their lives favoring Reproduction over Survival (80% / 20%)
This is why men tend to cheat more than women. It is a physically programmed instinct, but not an excuse that will win a man any forgiveness. This equation explains why men are forced to do all the approaching, and women get to do all the choosing. It also explains why men spend time trying to learn those magic words (i.e. pick up lines) to attract a woman, and why women their time dressing up, wearing make up and trying to smell nice. It is "survival of the fittest" at its very core.
So if you can understand and accept this equation, how do you take advantage of it? How can men benefit from this? You have to flip the equation and get women to chase you instead of you chasing them. Your efforts to chase women are going to be the least successful, especially if you use pick up lines. If you want to learn how to do this, pick up a copy of my book "The Player's Guide to Attracting & Seducing Beautiful Women", where I explain exactly how to do it based upon biological and social science.
Peace,
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I've added a new definition glossary of commonly used terms and acronyms that pick up artists use.
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In the first article in this series, we discussed the concept of reprocity: What The Pick Up Artists Don't Know - Power of Persuasion - Part 1
In this second article of the "What the Pick Up Artists Don't Know - Power of Persuasion", I'm going to explain a psychological principle pick up artists often use to their benefit. They often use tactics related to this concept (in fact, The Mystery Method encourages this very concept), but they have no idea how or why it works. They explain it in their own way, and they are correct to some point. But once you understand the fundamental psychological principle behind this concept, you will be much better at using this tactic in your efforts to attract and pick up girls. This concept is called "the need for consistency" and sometimes I call it "even if I'm wrong, I can't be wrong".
You can witness this principle in action at any poker table in any casino in the world. From time to time you will witness what is called a "bad beat"--somebody has a really good hand of cards, but ends up losing to an even better hand of cards. For example a full house with 3 aces and 2 kings is a great poker hand. It is a monster hand. But up against any four of a kind, it is worthless. The person loses their money to an even greater monster hand and they are stunned. The person then goes on for the rest of the evening to lose game after game, and can't seem to catch a run of good cards.
The truth is this person actually experiencing "bad luck" or anything of the sort. What they are experiencing is the inability to be consistent or "right" based upon an earlier decision. What they end up doing is betting on hands that are of little value (which is usually what you are dealt most often in numerous hands of poker). They do this because they often think they were originally right when they lost to the "bad beat", so now they must "prove" they were right by repeating the pattern over and over demonstrating consistency. This need for consistency is a fundamental of every human being, and is difficult to go against. Professional poker players will say that it is always best to leave the table and quit for a while after losing to a "bad beat". This allows the brain to reset itself and prevents the individual from repeating this pattern of failure (consistency).
This need for consistency is a fundamental of every human being, and is difficult to go against. Professional poker players will say that it is always best to leave the table and quit for a while after losing to a "bad beat".
So what does this have to do with picking up women? Have you ever heard of using a "lock-in" prop? Mystery wrote about this in his original book and teaches this very concept. I doubt he knows all the psychology of why it works, but it does work. A lock-in prop is something that you leave with a girl that you have approached so that you give the illusion of "entrusting" her with something personal of yours that gives you a "lock" on her and gives you a good reason come back to her later in the evening. Often times he will leave a hat or perhaps some cheap piece of jewelry or a watch with the girl, telling her "hold on to this for me for a moment, I'll be back". Then, he would proceed to open other sets and later come back to her and use that prop to re-open the set again (I believe there is actually a DVD that demonstrates exactly how to do this).
Although it sounds like a different behavior, this is the exact same principle of consistency operating here. When the girl accepts the lock-in prop (its such a small favor, who could resist?), she subconsciously tells herself its the right thing to do. Most every girl will hang on to that cheap, lock-in prop all night long (even to the point of inconvenience) just because they are compelled to believe they were right to do it in the first place. This again is the principle of consistency at work. This is not the only principle at work here (trust is part of another principle we'll discuss in a later article), but the basic concept of consistency is at work.
You don't have to fully understand the principle to use lock-in props (or other tactics that I teach that use this principle). The point is that understanding the principle allows you the ability to improvise in scenarios and create that need for consistency in your targets (women).
Stay tuned for part 3 of the "Power of Persuasion" series.
Peace,
Seattle Willy
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I have been getting a lot of email from readers lately asking for my opinion regarding online dating sites, and online "game" in general. My opinion of dating online hasn't changed much over the years. I believe it is a complete waste of time for most people, especially men. If you really want to increase your chances of meeting a woman, you have got to get out from behind that keyboard and see the real world. So, without further ado, here are my "Top 10 Reasons Online Dating Sites are a Waste of Time":
10. Online dating sites are loaded with fake profiles ("Hi, I saw your profile and I just had to get to know you...").
9. The person in the picture only shows you what they want you to see ("Oh... you mean that picture of you was from 10 years ago?").
8. When viewing pictures online, you are only using 1 of your 5 senses (see, smell, touch, hear, taste, squeeze, lick, tickle, grope, spank, twist etc).
7. Online pictures can't see you back (If this is new information for you, I think your problem is not dating).
6. It is much more difficult to demonstrate high social value (DHV) in a photo than in person ("See me dancing with my cool friends? Oh wait... that picture doesn't exist because I'm just a keyboard jockey eating Cheetos and playing War Craft").
5. Online dating sites with real people cost money ("You mean that free trial to set up my profile only allows me to date myself?").
4. People have a tendency to lie more often on dating sites to increase attention ("Honestly, I exercise at least 3 hours a day!").
3. People have a greater chance of being stood up on a first date when meeting someone online ("Excuse me sir... is it 10 o'clock yet? 12:30 you say? I thought maybe my watch was broken.").
2. In the time it takes for you to fill out your online profile, I am escalating kino with a real woman ("Hmmm... let's see, is my body type 'Athletic', 'Average', 'Stocky', 'Slim' or 'A Few Extra Pounds'?")
And the Number 1 Reason Dating Sites are a Complete Waste of Time...
1. If your girlfriend sees your profile, you are going to need to buy my book. 
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